If you have lived longer than about 5 years of age...
then you've dealt with someone you didn't enjoy being around.
And the older you get, the number of "those people" seems to INCREASE.
So... WHAT DO YOU DO
when you LIVE, or WORK with
someone who drives you CRAZY & steals your JOY?
According to a recent article in Psychology Today,
Dr. Andrea Bonior also suggests
going into a controversial interaction with a PLAN.
Waiting until AFTER you're upset, angry, hurt or frustrated
is TOO LATE for your brain to make it's best decisions.
The secret to dealing with people & situations
that are NOT as you'd like them to be...
is KNOWING what to DO
you FEEL Your Emotions Shift.
Watch Today's Video
teaching YOU ways to
MAKE A PLAN to KEEP your JOY
When People Are Driving You CRAZY!
As human beings, we live every single day of our lives as EMOTIONAL BEINGS...
and understanding what to do
in the moment when you FEEL your Emotions Shift toward negativity,
keeps you in the Driver's Seat of your Own LIFE!
The minute you let someone else's actions
control YOUR FEELINGS,
you've lost the battle....
and I am a firm believer that
The BATTLE for JOY begins in your MIND!
Use the Neuroscience of GRATITUDE to KEEP your joy...
even in the midst of a JOY THIEF.
looking for ways to see things in a NEW WAY,
and begin to live a NEW LIFE!
We've ALL heard the saying...
"When LIFE gives you lemons, make Lemonade."
The only problem with that is
your lemonade is gonna suck without some SUGAR.
And.... in the words of my favorite 11 year old "Mom, it's up to US to be the SUGAR!"
Such wisdom from the mouth of a child....
but in fact, it is exactly what the research and modern Neuroscience will tell you.
The ability to adjust your perspective in the midst of adversity (Resilience)
is closely linked to our overall quality of WELLBEING!
So... what does that mean?
Resilience is our ability to recover from a negative situation
and according to suicide prevention programs around the country,
it is one of the most important qualities needed
to alter the overwhelming rise in suicide and depression rates
ALL across The United States.
Resilience, or the lack of,
is also directly linked with one's ability
to BE, or NOT BE GRATEFUL!
One of the leading Neuroscientists, Richard Davidson,
Founder and Director of The Center for Healthy Minds,
discusses how the amount of negative emotion we
has the direct ability to affect our level of HAPPINESS!
So.... what is the best way to alter what we're HOLDING ON TO..... it's GRATITUDE!
It's so easy to be HAPPY when things are going great,
however... the true measure of your overall state of WELLBEING
is the ability to bounce back, or be RESILIENT in the face of negativity.
GRATITUDE is the key to changing Resiliency!
Research shows those who rank
LOWESTon the GRATITUDE Spectrum
stay more focused on their obstacles and their weaknesses.
Developing a practice of GRATITUDE
has been shown in studies across the globe
to improve almost every single area of our lives;
from our ability to sleep, lose weight, be more productive at work,
lower blood pressure and improve our relationships.
But... most importantly GRATITUDE
drastically raises our ability to BE RESILIENT in the face of life's lemons,
because you KNOW how to become the SUGAR!
WHY are WE constantly criticizing ourselves?
WHY do WE continually compare ourselves to everyone?
WHY do WE think we'd be soooooooo much HaPpIeR if......
we were just:
5. married to someone who___________
6. got to go on lavish vacations
7. had a different house
8. had a different job etc., etc., etc.
The TRUTH IS.... Psychology and Neuroscience will both tell you
that after your BASIC NEEDS have been met....
HAPPINESS becomes a
you CHOOSE for yourself !
Modern society is under a SIEGE of Negative Self-Talk
and many people don't even realize
it's going on inside their BRAINS...
and IF we do BECOME aware
of those nasty thoughts we have about ourselves...
we often mistakenly THINK
they JUST live within the privacy
of our OWN HEAD!
IN Fact...NOTHING could be farther from the truth!
Every single thought you have about yourself
is telling your BRAIN how to interpret
WHO YOU ARE!!!
According to an article in Psychology Today
people justify the cruelty they "SAY" inside their heads by believing:
1. I deserve it... I screwed up
2. It keeps my ego in check
3. If I Expect the worst I won't be disappointed
4. I don't really believe it
Studies show that exactly the OPPOSITE is true.
YOUR BRAIN DOES BELIEVE IT!
and.... you are creating continual wiring inside your head
"YOU ARE A FAILURE!"
So STOP doing that!
Start today and CHALLENGE your inner voice!
NEVER be afraid to be WHO YOU ARE!
The problem is...so many people have NO IDEA who they are
because they’ve spent their whole lives
being who someone else told them to be!
It’s taken me 52 years to be OK to be ME!!!
Don’t wait that long!
I always wanted to be quiet, graceful and elegant!
I so admired those qualities in others
and used to hate that I was too loud, too rough, and not very lady like
I have FINALLY reached a place where I can embrace
my insanely loud laugh,
my hillbilly southern drawl,
the fact that I LOVE to wear tooooons of Turquoise Jewelry,
talk to my dog like he’s a human,
hug my kids like they’re still 3 years old,
continue to get excited when I put on a tutu,
am a total nerd about reading and learning new things,
drink lots of coffee,
and.... hope to wear heels up until the day I die!
Because....that’s WHO I AM!
What could you learn to embrace and see it differently just by BEING YOU?
The world LOVES a Superhero.
They give us HOPE and a belief that GOOD can triumph over BAD.
When my BIG son (now almost 30) was little we used to watch the X-Men.
I remember so very clearly him sitting in my lap
as we watched our favorite characters battle the forces of evil!
One of the definitions for a SUPERHERO
is someone or something having
SPECIAL Neurological POWERS.
Holy Moly.... I had no idea that nearly 30 years ago I was pretending to be something that I would later spend my days studying, researching and sharing with the world !!!
The idea of being able to CONTROL your MIND has always fascinated me.
And I think I "knew" .....long before I "KNEW"
that the battle for the LIFE I wanted was in my MIND
..... if only I could figure out how to control it!
Brent was only about 3 or 4,
but I used to SMILE from ear to ear as we would play in the floor
with his little plastic X-men toys pretending to be the characters from the show.
I always wanted to be Jean Grey.... who by the way, was the most powerful!
She could control things with her mind and move them and create explosions!
I have no idea why I liked her so much, but maybe, as a 26 year old mother,
who was at the very beginning of the "swamped" feeling
learning all the tricks I needed to DO LIFE with
work, mom-hood, wife-hood, house and a new job....
I think I secretly wanted to be Jean Grey so that I too could control
(what felt so very OUT of my control) in my own life!
Little did I know...that almost 3 decades later,
I would learn how to become my VERY OWN JEAN GREY
by also learning how to control my MIND...
because I now understand how to control my EMOTIONS!
Watch today's video about controlling your emotions....
and become the SUPERhero of your OWN LIFE!
We ALL have feelings and emotions on a daily basis.
Heck... many of us have them on a moment-to-moment basis!
BUT learning that YOU have the power
every minute of every day
to CONTROL them is truly the secret to gaining the control you need over your life!
Become your OWN SUPERHERO,
by using the special NEUROLOGICAL POWER
available to each and every one of us.
Understanding your BRAIN is the beginning of Understanding your LIFE!
Staci is a one-of-a-kind mix of JOY and Neuroscience who is teaching people all over the world to BUILD a BETTER BRAIN by using Gratitude to create a BRIGHTER future. She has a Master's Degree in Educational NEUROSCIENCE and 25 years of teaching experience where she developed a reputation for being able to uncover potential in others like no one else could. Let her teach you how to live a HAPPIER Life by using the neuroscience of GRATITUDE to rewire your brain and build a better future!