Do you have a hangover?
A happiness hangover!
Is there even such a thing?
The answer to that question is a resounding YES!
Data shows that today.... is one of the highest
DEPRESSION based days of the year.
Why is that?
The answer to that question
is based on the downfall following
The Happiness High
after the holidays.
This day registers for many folks
much in the same way as Postpartum does.
Most of us are unaware of the fact
that a subconscious excitement brews
in the days leading up to the Holiday Season.
As we look forward to visiting with family,
putting up decorations, seeing the twinkling lights,
eating great food,
and living a few moments out of the year
where people are on their best behavior....
our brains are producing connections
and chemicals to register each of them
with the feelings of excitement and joy
(which is wonderful.... if you know how to continue those chemicals).
Often the holidays are linked to a great deal of dopamine
and other "feel good" chemicals....
whether those be from family, or even food.
Our brains also release those same chemicals (linked to happiness)
when we see holiday lights and hear sounds of once a year music.
And then...... there is TODAY....
when it's all OVER!
Leaving a mess to clean up,
decorations to put back in the attic,
lights to take down,
bills to somehow pay,
hyper kids home from school,
bodies that are feeling way toooooo full
(with hopes to finally start working out),
jobs to go back to and family that have all gone home.
That's why today is linked to such high rates of Depression and Anxiety!
So.... what can you do about that?
The answer is...to learn how to
change your brain chemicals
by finding new ways to
bring them back up to the Happiness High
they were on over the last month.
FIND SOMETHING else
to look forward to and work toward.
It's really that simple.
Our brain registers high levels
of endorphins when we are working for
and making progress toward a goal.....
even if that goal was unconsciously getting ready for Christmas.
And.... what better time than NOW!
as we are about to begin a new DECADE
...to start a new goal.
Did you know that there is a great deal
of data and research toward
how to set and actually achieve goals?
And even loads more data showing why
only a tiny percentage (1% of Americans)
actually achieve those goals.
The reason for that shocking number is quite simple.
The truth is....the reason most people
do NOT accomplish their goals,
is because 97% do NOT set them.
There is a HUGE difference between
setting a goal and making a new year's resolution.
Blanket resolutions (often the same ones you made last year)
tend to lead toward feeling of Depression
when you don't do them.
Goals.... (even small ones like getting up without hitting snooze)
release "feel good" endorphins in your brain......
each time you accomplish them,
and actually make it easier for you
to achieve larger goals.
It is so important for your brain,
to set small goals
(I call them Daily BABY STEPS)
to teach your brain to make neurological connections for you
to believe in yourself
(that you are the kind of person
who has the ability to reach your GOALS).
When you start achieving the little ones,
your brain creates connections for you to achieve the BIGGER ones.
Start today.... and give your brain & your life
the best gift this season......
CREATE neurological connections
for it to start BELIEVING
you have the ability to achieve greatness
(by setting DAILY Baby Step Goals)...
and before you know it,
YOU will be living
the life you've always wanted!
For the next 5 days
(until midnight on Dec. 31st) .....
I am offering my 10-to-WIN
Vision Board Training as a Complimentary Gift
(teaching you all the SCIENCE behind
goal setting and visualization)
when you register for
The January 21 Day GRATITUDE Boost Program.
Start your NEW Decade off like never before
with teaching, training, and daily encouragement
that can help you...
Use your BRAIN to Change your LIFE!
or simply.... get yourself a JOURNAL,
a notebook, or just a piece of paper
and write down your goals.
Put them somewhere you will see them daily,
and start doing Daily Baby Step Goals
to teach your brain
you can accomplish what you've set out to do.
REMEMBER....Each little accomplishment
will create a chemical rush in your brain
helping you to KEEP your HAPPINESS HIGH all year long.
What do you do when you know you SUCK?
A few months ago in the airport,
I was reminded of how I have lived 90% of my life.....
worrying about being GOOD enough!
As I was waiting for my luggage in baggage claim,
this little girl came up to me and said,
"YOUR hair looks JUST LIKE My BABY!"
bahaha.... You have to laugh at that!
What's funny though, is that morning,
as I was deciding whether or not to sleep in
or get up and wash my hair
before I headed to the airport....
I had that (oh so familiar)
internal BATTLE in my mind about.....
WHAT WILL PEOPLE THINK OF ME?
because the truth of the matter is......
MY HAIR DID LOOK JUST AS BAD AS HER BABY!
AND.....If I am going to be totally honest,
I will tell you that stressing over what people think of me
is something that I worried about most of my life.
In fact, 80% of people, (especially women)
are plagued by this on a daily basis.
I've worried about people thinking:
She's too old to be doing that,
She's too loud,
She's been married too many times,
She's been a liar and a cheater,
She comes from many generations of addicts & divorces,
She has too many kids,
She's had plastic surgery,
She's had a garage that looks like storage wars,
She likes to go to GOODWILL,
She's got wrinkles and cellulite,
She wears too much jewelry,
She doesn't eat healthy,
and on and on and on and on..........
And the truth is..... YOU'D BE RIGHT!
I have been all of those things, in fact, some of them I still am.
AND.... people remind me of them often.
But, as I learn more and more about my brain
and more and more about GRATITUDE,
I can say.... I'm ok with that, and you can be too!
Because the Honest to God truth is....
we spend so much time and energy
trying to convince people that we're BETTER than our mistakes,
UNTIL we realize that those times you SUCKED
were the very things that have given you:
strength, courage, a willingness to be vulnerable, &
an ability to bounce back and try it all over again.
Your screw-ups have the ability to give you a fire and
a determination to help someone else who hurts
like no lessons you could have learned
without the experience of WALKING THROUGH IT!
So.... as I sit here today,
knowing we will ALL continue to have things we suck at,
and moments when we do NOT do well.....
I have finally learned that
our weakness are actually some of our GREATEST Strengths!
THIS IS THE TRUTH!
I canNOT sing a lick......
and hid this video from our trip to New York
(dying at how terrible I sounded).
Thinking that at 52 years old,
I should KNOW what "not to do"
until I realized that the JOY of this moment
was so much more important than being GOOD!
because.....even though I SUCKED
Here's what I would have MISSED!
Start today Living your LIFE without so much fear
of what everyone will think IF YOU SUCK....
because the truth is..... there will be times when you DO!
And when that happens, pat yourself on the back and say.....
"WOW.... You're BRAVE!"
If you'd like to know more
about how to use the Science of GRATITUDE to change your brain....
we'd love for you to join us.
We begin on January 1, 2020.
Change your thoughts and Change your Life!
My 12 year old son & I
try to have Date Night each Wednesday.
Tonight, we decided to eat soup &
watch The Animated GRINCH movie
next to the fireplace.
I've seen The Grinch many times,
& read the book to my older children .....
but this was the 1st time I've seen it
since I began my journey into Neuroscience.
And, boy-oh-boy was I overwhelmed
at the connections in this cute little movie
to all that I study and believe in!
I kept telling my son,
"This MOVIE is all about Neuroscience!"
After about the 5th time, he politely said.....
"Mom, can we just watch IT like a movie,
& not like a research study?" haha
Though, I didn't say anything else,
I continued to write down all the statements
made in the movie that were exactly what I teach.
AND, I have to say... I cried when I realized
that this movie is about so much more
than a grouch at Christmas.
It's about the pain of childhood
that carries on into adulthood.
As well as being about the protective systems
our MINDs develop after trauma from our youth.
Not to mention the judgment of others.....
and most importantly,
how a single person's kindness
can change the heart of someone in pain.
As Brady and I watched this cute movie....
I saw in that Green Monster
so much more than a GRINCH.
I saw an animated example of how
our BRAINS are wired to protect us,
& how the sadness, pains & dangers
of our childhood walk right along with us
straight into our adulthood.
Though the world is much less forgiving
of mean adults, most likely...
they are just broken children
who never had a chance to heal.
Youthful trauma locks into our Brain's Amygdala
(as a safety mechanism),
to keep us from ever feeling that pain again.
However, in an attempt to keep us safe,
it reminds us of EXACTLY how bad it hurt
by "triggering" those exact wiring systems
each time any similar situation arises.
Chances are.... if we will take a moment
to analyze our negative emotions....
we will probably find that they are buried
much deeper than the present moment.
Today.... take a look at the childhood
version of yourself & see what hurts
have followed you into the present.
Maybe its time you let them go.
Tell your amygdala "you've got this"....
Choose to reevaluate your "triggers"
so that you can move forward in 2020
with a clean, GRATEFUL brain.
If you'd like to learn HOW your BRAIN works
& receive practical ways to change
those childhood wiring systems...
I'd love for you to join us
on Jan. 1, 2020 for 21 days
of BRAIN BUILDING GRATITUDE,
so you can move forward in this brand new decade
Living A GRATEFUL Life!
We've all heard the phrase.....
"I'm sorry, it was an accident!"
BUT.... one place you've NEVER heard anyone say that...
is about a LIFE they LOVE!
Because, incredible lives don't happen by chance or by accident.
Those kind of lives happen because someone, somewhere,
did something to build that life.
When I began to study how the brain worked,
I saw so many reasons as to why my "LIFE"
didn't seem to end up where I had intended it to go.
My THOUGHTS were controlling my FEELINGS,
and my FEELINGS were controlling my ACTIONS,
and my ACTIONS were controlling my HABITS,
and my HABITS were controlling my LIFE!
How had I not seen this sooner?
I discovered, right there in the middle
of piles of research
& stacks of books
that it was NOT the BIG moments
that made someone describe their life as GREAT.....
but it was in fact, the LITTLE HABITS & Daily Practices
that changed the course of someone's life
to the point in which they described it as GREAT!
So, as we embark upon a NEW decade....
let's all build a foundation for a life we can call GREAT,
by beginning with little changes in our daily THOUGHT HABITS.
UPgrade your BRAIN in 2020.
How do you do that you might ask?
The first, and most important step is to UPgrade your THOUGHTS!
Trust me when I say..... they are not harmless.
EACH and every single one of them
are creating connections in your brain-
which are causing either chemical or
electrical signals throughout your body.
Science will tell you that the cells in your body
regenerate themselves about every 7 years....
the problem with that is ....
we keep our same MINDSET
each time we are given the gift of new cells.
SAME MINDSET=SAME BODY!
So, if you are wanting a new body,
new habits, a new life, new friends, new ANYTHING....
you will NOT get it with the same THOUGHTS
that got you the one you have right now!
That is a fact!
Leo Tolstoy said it best
"Everyone thinks of changing the world,
but few of them begin with changing themselves."
Make a PLAN for your new year.
#1. Begin with 3 goals and 3 habits
that you want to change this year.
#2. Make a chart, or get a calendar,
or use the notes on your phone
and WRITE THEM DOWN.
#3. Read them every morning and every night....
#4. Take one baby step toward your 1st goal
every day until you have it.
There are loads of research studies to back this up.
People don't change their lives
until they change their daily HABITS.
Make your 2020 a year to remember
by building new habits & taking
daily baby steps toward your dreams!
Staci is a one-of-a-kind mix of JOY and Neuroscience who is teaching people all over the world to BUILD a BETTER BRAIN by using Gratitude to create a BRIGHTER future. She has a Master's Degree in Educational NEUROSCIENCE and 25 years of teaching experience where she developed a reputation for being able to uncover potential in others like no one else could. Let her teach you how to live a HAPPIER Life by using the neuroscience of GRATITUDE to rewire your brain and build a better future!