If you ask people what they WANT more than anything else in their life....
the VAST MAJORITY, without hesitation, will say.... happiness.
Then, if you ask them what they want for their children...
the percentage who say happiness - goes up even higher.
So, if everyone is WANTING happiness, why don't we have it?
I have personally been in that EXACT boat,
rowing around looking for happiness.
And, of course I would find it on occasion.
Sometimes it would last for weeks, sometimes months,
and a few times it even stayed around several YEARS.
But, it wasn't until I began to understand
that I realized WHY it never lasted.
The answer to THAT question
actually sits right INSIDE the very question itself.
People want HAPPINESS,
but MOST of us are totally unaware
that the word happiness
comes from the Indo-European root HAP
without exception, as far back as Ancient Greek Civilization,
which means LUCK!
So.... happiness, or happy
refers to happenstance
or a CHANCE HAPPENING-
NO WONDER I was never able to HOLD ON to my happiness.
The word itself means it is based on WHAT WAS HAPPENING in my LIFE.....
so, when it was good, I was happy, and when it was bad, I was upset.
I know that many people reading this are saying....
DUH..... of course that's how it works.
BUT... that's the difference in GRATITUDE!
That's NOT how it works.
SCIENTIFIC Gratitude (the kind that has FEELING)
is not based on what's happening
and CAN be taught and practiced
REGARDLESS of one's circumstances.
And... GRATITUDE teaches you to enjoy the HAPPY moments differently
so that they create lasting connections in the brain
releasing chemicals throughout your body
to produce happiness!
Take a look at my recent trip to New York with my family.
OF COURSE this was an easy one to be happy about
because the (EVENTS (happenstance) surrounding me were in my favor),
however, I could have also chosen to focus on
the stress of being in a BIG CITY,
the worry of the subway,
all the zillion stories I'd heard about muggers and dangerous drivers;
but I focused on the fact that
I had my 2 precious grown children there with me
and their significant others,
as well as my son's dear in-law family who I call my own.
I truly cherished EVERY minute
and stopped to FEEL the moments
as I looked at their grown-up bodies,
watched their adult smiles,
listened to their sibling laughter,
WHILE we felt the stressful hustle and bustle of the big city.
I HELD-ON to these memories
in a way I never used to understand,
because happiness is short-lived
and often fleeting... based on the MOMENT, but
GRATITUDE is a genuine sense of awe
that you can hold on to for a LIFETIME!
One of my favorite scientists, and world renowned GRATITUDE expert, Dr. Robert Emmons said it best... "Happiness is an inch deep and an inch wide and changes quickly but GRATITUDE is a mile deep and a mile wide and can withstand the storm."
Start today building a life with a goal to be GRATEFUL rather than HAPPY.
JOIN us for the 21 day GRATITUDE BOOST online course.
Starting September 1st
21 days could change your LIFE!
Staci is a one-of-a-kind mix of JOY and Neuroscience who is teaching people all over the world to BUILD a BETTER BRAIN by using Gratitude to create a BRIGHTER future. She has a Master's Degree in Educational NEUROSCIENCE and 25 years of teaching experience where she developed a reputation for being able to uncover potential in others like no one else could. Let her teach you how to live a HAPPIER Life by using the neuroscience of GRATITUDE to rewire your brain and build a better future!