Today on the BLOg.... Just add SCIENCE, and maybe some coffee too!
I've talked very openly about how I tried for years to "GET HAPPY"
(even with a big smile on my face)
and became obsessed with reading books about it
and trying everything I could find to "get IT" for myself.
Nothing seemed to work in the long run though,
until I began learning about my brain.
When our professor explained how EMOTIONAL situations lock-in
our memory banks very differently than other life events... I was hooked.
Then we went on to learn how our brains are built to protect us
from the emotional traumas of our past
and remind us ANY TIME a situation similar to that feels TRIGGERED.
The problem with that however,
is that our brains log the information from a perspective
of the situation you were in AT THAT MOMENT,
and it doesn't differentiate that THIS ONE
comes from a new place in our life.
ALL your brain remembers
is THIS HURT,
or THIS SCARED YOU,
or THIS IS DANGEROUS,
and it starts sending in the chemicals for your body
to "REACT" as if it is in that SAME SITUATION again
so that you can take appropriate action.
This is my issue I am dealing with at the moment!
I was in a 4 car pile up a few years ago
where a man hit me from behind and pushed me
into the car in front of me and then that car into another car.
So..... My little car got smashed from the front and the back.
This seems bad enough,
but BRADY, my son (who was 9 at the time) was in the backseat
where the blunt force of the hit landed.
Any mother out there will know
the immediate fear that comes with something like that.
We were both fine, but I can tell you my BRAIN has NOT let that go!
I feel my own fear rising every single time I get in the car,
and I watch the rearview mirror constantly.
After that event, I was hit in the back of the car 2 other times
over the course of the following year,
both from people ON THEIR PHONES....
so now the fear has risen even higher.
My brain logged that fear and protection for my son
into my emotional brain,
and now each time I see a car coming (what I feel like is too close)
in the rearview mirror, I have to really talk myself off the PANIC ledge.
That's the same thing we do with every UPSETTING emotion!
And often times we blame someone
for REMINDING us of something
that was done to us by SOMEONE ELSE!
That's where SCIENCE can play a role that other methods do not offer.
Here is a great site for those of you who want to dig a little deeper into TRIGGERS.
Understanding how to CATCH your "Triggers"
is crucial to changing your emotional path.
I have said numerous times.... and still hold firm
to the theory
that most people don't have 20 fights,
instead they have 1 fight 20 times.
And sadly, we often take out our negative emotions on those we love the most (unknowingly) because they've said or done something that set off our emotional TRIGGER.
If you'd like to know more about "CATCHING" your triggers
and how GRATITUDE can be used to counteract them,
I'd love you to join us in the 21 Day GRATITUDE BOOST eCourse.
thegratitudebusiness.com/gratitude-programs/Click HERE for more details.
Or, if you'd like to work on this on your own,
try using a journal for the next few weeks
keeping tabs of each time you feel-
and jot down EXACTLY what was happening at the time!
Staci is a one-of-a-kind mix of JOY and Neuroscience who is teaching people all over the world to BUILD a BETTER BRAIN by using Gratitude to create a BRIGHTER future. She has a Master's Degree in Educational NEUROSCIENCE and 25 years of teaching experience where she developed a reputation for being able to uncover potential in others like no one else could. Let her teach you how to live a HAPPIER Life by using the neuroscience of GRATITUDE to rewire your brain and build a better future!