Valentine's Day has always been one of my favorite holidays as a grown up. AND... it has not been because I was showered with gifts or romanced to far away places. My joy with this holiday began in 1989, when I was doing my student teaching in Abilene, Texas with my mentor teacher - Lisa Farr.
She explained to me (how as a single mom), she let go of the idea of Valentine's Day being about "getting", and turned it into one of "giving" for her children and other people she thought would benefit from a surprise smile and a little extra LOVE.
I must say... as a 21 year old girl, full of self-absorption, I was in awe that someone who had no romantic love in her life could possibly be filled with such genuine excitement for a LOVE HOLIDAY. Almost 30 years later.... I have never forgotten the lesson she taught me, and I have tried my best over these many years to pass her message along to others. So... as my 2018 Valentine's Day approached, I pulled out my old tricks, and channeled my inner Ms. Farr, and made the LOVE HOLIDAY about giving and making it special for someone else.
You can ask any of my 3 children about their memories of
Valentine's Day.... and I am sure the first words out of their mouths will have something to do with MR. Cupid!
I started my family's tradition of MR. CUPID in 1992 when my son, Brent, was just a little over 2 years old. MR. Cupid, just like Santa Clause, would come to our house the night before Valentine's Day and leave gifts, candy and little surprises all over the house .... but the twist with MR. Cupid was that his treats came in the form of a TREASURE HUNT with clues that must be followed in order to find your surprises at each location.
Over the last 26 years, (Brent is now 28), I can honestly say that I have loved Valentine's Day more than any other holiday because of the lesson I learned from Ms. Farr. I have watched the faces of Brent and Brook, and now little Brady as they have had many MR. Cupid moments of joy.... and I am reminded of how grateful I am to be able to give.
So.... wherever you are today Ms. Farr....
I hope you know that the lesson I learned, from a single mom,
about the possible JOYs available on Valentine's Day has never left my heart.
I am so deeply grateful for what you taught me that day in 1989 and continue to be amazed at how a simple change in perspective is all you need to change your life.
May you all learn a dear lesson from that struggling, single mom....
No matter what your circumstances may be....
you can always find gratitude and joy from the simple act of GIVING.
Staci is a one-of-a-kind mix of JOY and Neuroscience who is teaching people all over the world to BUILD a BETTER BRAIN by using Gratitude to create a BRIGHTER future. She has a Master's Degree in Educational NEUROSCIENCE and 25 years of teaching experience where she developed a reputation for being able to uncover potential in others like no one else could. Let her teach you how to live a HAPPIER Life by using the neuroscience of GRATITUDE to rewire your brain and build a better future!