If you're like the majority of women in the world
(especially those over 30)
it's likely hard for you to take a compliment.
UP until a few days ago however,
I've never really paid any attention to it.
I recently read some research
behind the Neuroscience for how we accept,
or DON'T accept a compliment.
So..... let's take a closer look.
If, for example, someone gives you a compliment such as:
"I love your outfit. You look so good in that color."
Do you say:
1. "Thank you so much.
That's nice to hear because it's one of my favorite colors too." or
2. "This old thing. I've had this at least ten years."
Even the most simple of responses says something
about how YOUR BRAIN is processing the words they said to you.
In the 1st example,
cognitive wiring ACCEPTS the compliment with gratitude
and most likely a smile with some accompanying serotonin.
But... in the 2nd example,
it shows a subconscious disconnect
between the GIVERs words to the RECEIVERs acceptance.
This indicates an inability to believe those words about one's self.
Yes, it seems so simple, but.... I invite you to dig a little deeper
into the "WHY" behind your rejection in receiving those kind words.
Because, research shows that when we reject or shrug off a compliment
(even in a humorous manner)
it's like our brain is playing a game of HOT POTATO
with the compliment
because it does NOT have the internal wiring
or belief system
in the "goodness" of those words about itself,
and therefore MUST get RID OF IT !
So.... as you go about the rest of your week....
take note of the things you say
when someone says something kind to you.
AND.... make it your NEUROSCIENCE
homework this week
to give out several compliments
and see if you don't end up getting a potato right back in your face.
Sadly, this silly analogy is very indicative of the soaring rates of depression
over the last decade, as well as the massive decline in self-esteem;
and research shows that the issue is much more
than mere embarrassment over a few kind words.
In fact, it reveals an extremely complex
lack of wiring in our brains
toward the belief in our own GOODNESS.
Change the way your BRAIN sees itself
by beginning a practice of GRATITUDE.
Start each morning
by saying something KIND TO YOURSELF.
Look in the mirror and say THANK YOU....
and find at least 1 thing you like about yourself
and OWN IT!
If you'd like to know more
about how to change your brain
and begin a practice of LIFE TRANSFORMING GRATITUDE,
I'd love you to join us for the next
21 DAY GRATITUDE BOOST online class.
We begin on Oct. 1st.
You will be amazed at the power
of 21 days of SCIENTIFICALLY backed GRATITUDE.
Staci is a one-of-a-kind mix of JOY and Neuroscience who is teaching people all over the world to BUILD a BETTER BRAIN by using Gratitude to create a BRIGHTER future. She has a Master's Degree in Educational NEUROSCIENCE and 25 years of teaching experience where she developed a reputation for being able to uncover potential in others like no one else could. Let her teach you how to live a HAPPIER Life by using the neuroscience of GRATITUDE to rewire your brain and build a better future!